*Abu’bakr Sadiq Suleiman Frinjie*
Life lessons that help improve my life.
A practical Brotherhood observation about your lifestyle and lifetime

Bismi-Allah Ar-Rahma Ar-Rahim

Allah Says:
فَبَدَأَ بِأَوْعِيَتِهِمْ قَبْلَ وِعَآءِ أَخِيهِ ثُمَّ اسْتَخْرَجَهَا مِنْ وِعَآءِ أَخِيهِ ۚ كَذٰلِكَ كِدْنَا لِيُوسُفَ ۖ مَا كَانَ لِيَأْخُذَ أَخَاهُ فِى دِينِ الْمَلِكِ إِلَّآ أَنْ يَشَآءَ اللَّهُ ۚ نَرْفَعُ دَرَجٰتٍ مَّنْ نَّشَآءُ ۗ وَفَوْقَ كُلِّ ذِى عِلْمٍ عَلِيمٌ
"So he began [the search] with their bags before the bag of his brother; then he extracted it from the bag of his brother. Thus did We plan for Joseph. He could not have taken his brother within the religion of the king except that Allah willed. We raise in degrees whom We will, but over every possessor of knowledge is one [more] knowing."(Yusuf 12:76)

With Allah Ar-Rahma Ar-Rahim I write to introduce my Brother *Abu'bakr Sadiq Suleiman Frinjie*
Lesson I took from you. These really help me a lot Brother:

A practical lifetime and lifestyle with you

1: Stand Up Straight With Your Shoulders Back

If you present yourself as defeated, then people will react to you as if you are losing. If you start to straighten up, then people will look at and treat you differently.

So, attend carefully to your posture. Quit drooping and hunching around. Speak your mind. Put your desires forward, as if you had a right to them — at least the same right as others. Walk tall and gaze forthrightly ahead. Dare to be dangerous. Encourage the serotonin to flow plentifully through the neural pathways desperate for its calming influence.

2: Treat Yourself Like Someone You Are Responsible for Helping

We deserve some respect. You deserve some respect. You are important to other people, as much as to yourself. You have some vital role to play in the unfolding destiny of the world. You are, therefore, morally obliged to take care of yourself. You should take care of, help and be good to yourself the same way you would take care of, help and be good to someone you loved and valued.

3: Make Friends with People Who Want the Best For You

This is similar to the idea that you become the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

Don’t think that it is easier to surround yourself with good healthy people than with bad unhealthy people. It’s not. A good, healthy person is an ideal. It requires strength and daring to stand up near such a person. Have some humility. Have some courage. Use your judgment, and protect yourself from too-uncritical compassion and pity.

4: Compare Yourself to Who You Were Yesterday, Not Who Someone Else is Today

We only see what we aim at. The rest of the world (and that’s most of it) is hidden. If we start aiming at something different — something like I want my life to be better” — our minds will start presenting us with new information, derived from the previously hidden world, to aid us in that pursuit.

Then we can put that information to use and move, and act, and observe, and improve. And, after doing so, after improving, we might pursue something different, or higher — something like, I want whatever might be better than just my life being better.” And then we enter a more elevated and more complete reality.

“What could I do, that I would do, to make Life a little better?”
I’ll update the rest lessons later.

Allah says:
قَالُوٓا أَءِنَّكَ لَأَنْتَ يُوسُفُ ۖ قَالَ أَنَا۠ يُوسُفُ وَهٰذَآ أَخِى ۖ قَدْ مَنَّ اللَّهُ عَلَيْنَآ ۖ إِنَّهُ ۥ مَنْ يَتَّقِ وَيَصْبِرْ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُضِيعُ أَجْرَ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
"They said, Are you indeed Joseph? He said I am Joseph, and this is my brother. Allah has certainly favored us. Indeed, he who fears Allah and is patient, then indeed, Allah does not allow to be lost the reward of those who do good."(Yusuf 12:90)

*Abu'bakr Sadiq Suleiman Frinjie*
Life lessons that help improve my life.
A practical Brotherhood observation about your lifestyle and lifetime
Sananu Zakaria Alhassan
Nyame-mawa Fama-nyame
(Creation seek the Creator of Creations)